Rubbin’ Off
1 Cor. 15:33 …”Bad company corrupts good character.” Paul’s Holy Spirit inspired way to warn the believers to not let the resurrection rejecters “rub off on them.” A time honored principle most often used to ward us away from that which we need to be wary of its influence.
But isn’t that really what development and discipleship is all about as well? “Rubbing off” on someone for the influence of what is good and right. Jesus’ best efforts of discipleship and development were not just the grand discourses and amazing miracles, but most likely the quiet breakfasts on the shore, walks along the road, or discussions after the crowds were gone. Sure they gleaned a lot from watching his compassion for the children or his dealings with the Pharisees, but in those other moments, those “rub off” moments, he really revealed his heart and purpose. Later it was evident when these “unschooled, ordinary men” stood before the council, and “they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus.” Acts 4:13 (NIV) Not just that they had heard the great teachings of Jesus or seen the incredible miracles of Jesus, but their manner, their boldness, revealed they had been with Jesus in a real life changing way.
Sure it will be argued by some that was result of the coming of the Holy Spirit into their lives, but don’t we as pastors have that same spirit? Those that are placed in our care to develop or disciple desperately need someone to share how it is to be lived out. Time spent sharing the heart of ministry placed into us by the Spirit.
Discipleship training classes, leadership conferences, and development workshops are wonderful and impart a great amount of knowledge, but “rubbing off” is really where passion and perspective are transferred to those in development.
It may take seem like taking a lot of time not doing anything when time seems like it is at a premium, but the dividends can be great. I think someone coined the phrase, “playing with purpose” referring games played in order to teach important lessons. Let’s spend some time “rubbing off” on our leaders and staff by just sharing our hearts as with are with them along the way.
#1 by Rick Morris at September 7th, 2009
Great job Lance. You know what’s crazy? It seems like the longer I’m in ministry, I seem to have a greater tendency to be a bit more withdrawn from people. You get burned, people put unrealistic expectations on you, things like that. Anyone else have this tendency? You’re right though Lance, we do need to “rub off” on people more than what we do.
#2 by Scott Cheatham at September 7th, 2009
Nice hair Lance…Oh wait, that’s an old joke!
Seriously, I think you’re dead on in your commentary here. I tell our people all the time I will not allow us to grow so big that I cannot live out my life in the midst of the congregation. I love Calvin Miller’s writings on this. It’s so easy to withdraw as commitments increase but the very essence of our ministry comes from spending time with our church families…
#3 by jimmy at September 7th, 2009
I can relate to what you are saying about getting burned Rick. IIt makes me want to back off as well. Its important for us to remember that even when we get burned we have to guard ourselves from taking it personal. If we take it personal and withdraw we cheat a lot of people who don’t want to burn us. Great post Lance!
#4 by Brenda Rogers at September 8th, 2009
I know this is a pastors site…but good job honey. After last week, I think this also goes for pastor’s wives as well. I know last week I wanted to throw in the towel and not become close to anyone else. Reading this helps me to understand that I need to hang in there…and RUB OFF!!
#5 by Rick Morris at September 9th, 2009
come on Jimmy, we allow wives on this site????? Just kidding!!!